Renae Hines 10/26/25 Renae Hines 10/26/25

On Guilt And Shame Eclipse Season

On Guilt and Shame — Eclipse Season

This Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Virgo has been nothing short of transformational.
It’s a mirror showing me where I still hold guilt, where shame still whispers, and where I’m finally ready to let it all go.

During this eclipse season, I’ve been gifted countless opportunities to re-evaluate the choices I make and the energy I share. I’ve been reminded that I hold all the power in my body, my boundaries, and my becoming. For years, I let guilt and shame shape how I saw myself. Religion once taught me that being human meant being wrong. But I’m not wrong for being human. I’m divine for being aware.

This season has taught me that guilt isn’t guidance it’s a signal to pivot. Shame isn’t truth it’s residue from an outdated belief that I am unworthy. I can acknowledge the moments I’ve fallen short without punishing myself for being in progress.

I’m learning to alchemize these lessons.
To turn guilt into gratitude.
To transform shame into self-compassion.
To walk through the fire and rise as something stronger like a Phoenix, forged in grace.

The Universe keeps giving me opportunities to grow, to test my alignment, to remind me that peace is my highest value and self-love is my truest power.

I am grateful for every lesson.
Grateful for every mirror.
Grateful for this beautiful, messy, magnificent life.

May we learn and grow.
Please prioritize self-care and mindfulness.

All my love,
AbFabNerd

Renae Hines 10/19/25 Renae Hines 10/19/25

Lessons/Tests from the Universe

Lessons/Tests From The Universe

The Universe loves to test me. Over and over.
And honestly? I’m tired.

But lately, I’ve been learning to see these “tests” differently not as punishments, but as opportunities. Opportunities to recognize patterns, to pause before reacting, and to choose differently. Because growth doesn’t mean never messing up; it means realizing you don’t have to keep reacting the same way.

Sometimes I fail spectacularly. I say the wrong thing, I don’t set the boundary soon enough, or I walk away wishing I’d handled it better. But that’s part of the process. Each test gives me another chance to ask:
👉 “Is this really who I want to be?”
👉 “Is this how I want to respond next time?”

That’s the real lesson. It’s not about passing or failing it’s about awareness.
It’s about identifying that old energy, that knee-jerk reaction that no longer serves who I’m becoming, and consciously choosing something new.

We’re allowed to pivot.
We’re allowed to change our variables.
We’re allowed to do better one test at a time.

So when the Universe gives you yet another test, remember:
You’re not being punished. You’re being invited to evolve.
And every time you choose differently, you pass with flying colors.

All my love,
AbFabNerd

Renae Hines 10/1/25 Renae Hines 10/1/25

Addiction Adores Absolute Adherence

Addiction wears many disguises. Some are obvious—drugs, alcohol, gambling. Others slip in quietly: shopping, scrolling, chasing likes, obsessing over perfection. The behaviors look different, but the root is the same: a desperate need to numb pain or distract from it.

Addiction adores absolute adherence.
It thrives on routine, demanding loyalty to the very habits that hurt you. The longer you obey, the worse you feel, and the more you reach for the thing that keeps you low. It’s a loop designed to keep you stuck.

Recovery can’t be forced by a court order, a partner’s ultimatum, or a scare tactic. True change begins when you decide you deserve better. No one can give you the belief that you are worthy of love, healing, and freedom—except you.

Maybe your addiction is easy to spot. Maybe it hides behind “healthy” habits: cleaning, dieting, constant productivity. If you feel disoriented when you can’t perform a ritual, if you cling to a behavior as if it defines you, that’s addiction’s quiet grip.

But here’s the truth:
You can break the loop.
You can change the rules.
You can choose to stop punishing yourself and start loving yourself instead.

Stay mindful of what controls you. Question what you feel compelled to obey. Healing begins when you see the pattern and believe you deserve to break it.

I wish for you healing and personal growth.
Please prioritize self-care and mindfulness.

All my love,
AbFabNerd

Renae Hines 9/29/25 Renae Hines 9/29/25

Forgiving Failure Facilitates Freedom

Forgiveness sounds noble and wise—until you’re the one holding the hurt. Everyone says forgiveness is for you, not the other person. I know that’s true. And yet, when you’ve been betrayed, abused, or abandoned, forgiving can feel like letting someone off the hook. Like their pain-free life is a reward for what they did to you.

I’ve lived that tug-of-war. I’ve clung to anger like armor, believing my resentment was the only way to make someone pay. But the truth? Forgiveness isn’t about freeing them—it’s about freeing you.

The harder part, though, isn’t forgiving others. It’s forgiving yourself.
Maybe it’s the shame of a relapse. Maybe it’s the night you said things you can’t unsay. Maybe it’s a choice so heavy you can’t even name it out loud. We punish ourselves with guilt, replaying mistakes like a broken record, convinced we deserve a life sentence of pain.

But here’s the reality:
You can’t undo the past.
You can’t rewrite the damage.
You can choose a different future.

Forgiving failure—especially your own—isn’t about erasing consequences. It’s about refusing to stay imprisoned by them. Self-forgiveness is the doorway to healing, to growth, to the freedom to try again.

“Forgiving Failure Facilitates Freedom” isn’t just a mantra. It’s a lifeline. When you forgive yourself, you loosen the chains of shame and step into the possibility of becoming someone new. That’s where freedom lives.

I wish for you healing and personal growth.
Please prioritize self-care and mindfulness.

All my love,
AbFabNerd

Renae Hines 12/23/24 Renae Hines 12/23/24

WHAT KIND OF COOKIES ARE YOU MAKING?

What kind of cookies—and life—are you making? This holiday season, join AbFabNerd as we bake our way into self-discovery! With humor and heart, our latest blog delves into the parallels between crafting delicious holiday cookies and designing a fulfilling life. From recipes and ingredients to tools and recipients, discover how each choice shapes the outcome. Whether you're stirring up holiday magic or setting intentions for the new year, this thoughtful read will inspire self-awareness and growth. Visit now to lead with love, embrace your power, and savor every moment of the season!