On Guilt And Shame Eclipse Season
On Guilt and Shame — Eclipse Season
This Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Virgo has been nothing short of transformational.
It’s a mirror showing me where I still hold guilt, where shame still whispers, and where I’m finally ready to let it all go.
During this eclipse season, I’ve been gifted countless opportunities to re-evaluate the choices I make and the energy I share. I’ve been reminded that I hold all the power in my body, my boundaries, and my becoming. For years, I let guilt and shame shape how I saw myself. Religion once taught me that being human meant being wrong. But I’m not wrong for being human. I’m divine for being aware.
This season has taught me that guilt isn’t guidance it’s a signal to pivot. Shame isn’t truth it’s residue from an outdated belief that I am unworthy. I can acknowledge the moments I’ve fallen short without punishing myself for being in progress.
I’m learning to alchemize these lessons.
To turn guilt into gratitude.
To transform shame into self-compassion.
To walk through the fire and rise as something stronger like a Phoenix, forged in grace.
The Universe keeps giving me opportunities to grow, to test my alignment, to remind me that peace is my highest value and self-love is my truest power.
I am grateful for every lesson.
Grateful for every mirror.
Grateful for this beautiful, messy, magnificent life.
May we learn and grow.
Please prioritize self-care and mindfulness.
All my love,
AbFabNerd
Forgiving Failure Facilitates Freedom
Forgiving Failure Facilitates Freedom
Forgiveness sounds noble and wise—until you’re the one holding the hurt. Everyone says forgiveness is for you, not the other person. I know that’s true. And yet, when you’ve been betrayed, abused, or abandoned, forgiving can feel like letting someone off the hook. Like their pain-free life is a reward for what they did to you.
I’ve lived that tug-of-war. I’ve clung to anger like armor, believing my resentment was the only way to make someone pay. But the truth? Forgiveness isn’t about freeing them—it’s about freeing you.
The harder part, though, isn’t forgiving others. It’s forgiving yourself.
Maybe it’s the shame of a relapse. Maybe it’s the night you said things you can’t unsay. Maybe it’s a choice so heavy you can’t even name it out loud. We punish ourselves with guilt, replaying mistakes like a broken record, convinced we deserve a life sentence of pain.
But here’s the reality:
You can’t undo the past.
You can’t rewrite the damage.
You can choose a different future.
Forgiving failure—especially your own—isn’t about erasing consequences. It’s about refusing to stay imprisoned by them. Self-forgiveness is the doorway to healing, to growth, to the freedom to try again.
“Forgiving Failure Facilitates Freedom” isn’t just a mantra. It’s a lifeline. When you forgive yourself, you loosen the chains of shame and step into the possibility of becoming someone new. That’s where freedom lives.
I wish for you healing and personal growth.
Please prioritize self-care and mindfulness.
All my love,
AbFabNerd